Safety Tips

Protect your identity:
All electronic correspondence between members is protected, meaning your true identity does not appear until you choose to disclose who you are. Do not include your last name, email address, home address, phone number, place of business or any other identifying information in your profile or messages. Stop communicating with anyone who is persistent about getting your personal information or tries for you to reveal it in dishonest ways.

Take your time:
Women who seem too good to be true are usually too good to be true. Communication should begin through the messenger or email. This is the time for you to look for strange behavior or inconsistencies from the other member. Always remember that the person at the other end may not be who or what she says she is. Your first intuition will usually be a good place to start forming an opinion about the other woman. Trust your feelings. If something makes you think that she is not being honest, this is the time to walk away in order to protect your own safety.

Caution and Common Sense:
Having patience and making careful decisions will give you a better lesbian dating result. Through consistent, honest and truthful behavior your possible suitor should gain your trust. Time is of the essence and rushing into any kind of situation could prove harmful. Instead take all the time you need to make sure she is the person that she says she is. If you suspect that she is not being truthful, you are probably right and you should move on. Don’t fall in love with the first woman that comes by, but instead be responsible about the situation. Online intimacy should only occur once you are very aware of who the person is even if the intimacy only occurs online. If the intimacy is to occur in person, please be aware of the sexually transmitted diseases (STD’s) and how to protect yourself.

Photo Complete the Picture:

Ask for a photo to see the person that you are dealing with early on. This should also help with your gut feeling and that first impression. Various pictures will also ensure that the person is who she says she is. Asking for pictures in different places will also confirm who the person is. If she provides you with excuses about why she can’t send you a photo, take that as your first clue that she has something to hide. Look for this and other clues that will suggest that she is not who she is claiming to be.

Phone Talk:
Talking on the phone will reveal a lot about a person’s communication and social skills. Although you want to be able to talk to this person, try to conceal your phone number by using *67 or by using a prepaid cell phone number. Your phone number should only be disclosed when you are comfortable with the person that you are communicating with.

First Time Meeting:

Before that initial meeting, online dating provides you with the opportunity to collect valuable information slowly about your date. There is no in person pressure as you are able to meet, talk, and communicate before you actually meet in person. This allows you to decide whether you wish to pursue this relationship or move on to the next one. The best part of online dating is that you are not obligated to meet anyone that you do not wish to meet. Even after meeting you are able to change your mind and not continue with the relationship regardless of your level of intimacy. Always remember to trust your instincts.

Warning Signs:

When getting to know that special person, pay close attention to displays of anger, intense frustration or attempts to pressure or control you. Showing disrespect to you through demeaning comments or being physically inappropriate are clues that this person is not who they are portraying themselves to be. Be concerned if your date exhibits this or any of the following displays of unacceptable behaviors:

· Inconsistent information about age, interests, appearance, marital status, profession, employment, etc.
· Refuses to speak to you by phone after establishing extended, online intimacy.
· Fails to provide direct answers to direct questions.
· Appears significantly different in person from his or her online pictures.
· Never introduces you to friends, professional associates or family members.

Meet in a Safe Place:
The first meeting should occur in a mutually safe place for both women. Always tell a friend where you will be and when you will be returning when meeting your date for the first time offline. Never have your date pick you up at your house. Instead always have your own mode of transportation to and from the event. Make sure that you are able to leave at any point in the date if you feel uncomfortable. Meeting in a public place, when there are people around is optimal. When the date is over, leave on your own. A good meeting place would be a restaurant, coffee shop during a busy time with many people around. If you move to another location make sure to take your own transportation. At the end of the date, say your goodbyes and leave in your own transportation to your own home.

Extra Caution If Traveling:

When flying in to meet your date, make sure to make your own arrangements for your hotel and transportation. Do not give your date the name of your hotel or allow them to meet you at your hotel. Especially when you are in a different city, you need to have control of your own safety. Try to meet at a specific location that is not at your hotel. Always keep your friends or family back home aware of what you are doing and where you will be. Try to check in with them at different times to make sure you are always safe. Carry a cell phone with you at all times.

Getting Out of Trouble:

Always trust your judgment and if you feel your safety is being compromised do not be afraid to leave the situation that you are in. Never be pushed into doing something you are unsure about. If you feel threatened by your date, find a way to calm the situation and get out of that situation quickly. Excuse yourself to make a phone call to a friend or someone that can help you leave the establishment. Do not be afraid to leave. If you feel you are in danger then call the police or ask for assistance. Never be embarrassed if you feel your safety is in danger.

Liars or dangerous people can be found anywhere like in nightclubs, bookstores, parties or even through school. Regardless of where you have met your date, it will never be a risk free activity but acting wisely you can minimize the chances for danger to yourself.